I don't know why I havent written about it yet. With 'it' being something that happened last Februrary. An experience I could've gone without.
I had a job interview and towards the end of the interview I was told that I wouldn't get the job because I'm a woman. I'd get pregnant and leave and that wouldn't be good for the team.
I spent four weeks in shock before I contacted my country's anti-discrimination office and asked them wether it had just been me.
They assured me that it wasn't just me and I got a lawyer.
Unfortunately, anti-discrimination laws suck. Since the position had still been open, the company just offered to hire me now and things were, according to law, just fine. (And I said 'no'.)
Nothing will ever compensate how I've felt.
For three days I honestly doubted that I'd want to spend the rest of my life as a woman.
I still ask myself why I was made to feel so bad about something I've never had influence on. No one asked me wether I wanted to be born female. Why did I have to feel faulty for being female?
I will never understand.
Neither will I ever understand comments like 'You just need a thicker skin.' (A man told me, who would have guessed....)
Seriously, how does that solve the problem...?
And this, boys and girls, is why we need feminism.
Because I'm not faulty just because I was born a woman. Because women can have children and still work fulltime. Because prejudice sucks, in any case, no matter who's affected.
I still have to think of this from time to time. It still has the potential to make me sad and ruin my day.
Thanks asshole of an employer....!